@bikepedantic It's been eight years for my brother-in-law (technically, my sister-in-law's husband). He had to reinvent much of his life after the death of his wife, find a new way of being there for his three teen girls. She took care of whole sectors of their lives that he now had to navigate and command. Holidays were tough—he hosted one not long after, and we all pitched in, but still, a challenge.
My heart goes out to you.